Many times I heard the wife of the Caucasian man screaming
"Go Home !, Go Home!"
If I see an Indonesian woman walking with a Caucasian man whether they are husband and wife, lover or just friend, it seems something really great, I really want to be able to walk alongside Caucasians, talk in English but everything is only in my dreams.
I can not speak English, my age is already twilight, I regret when I first school I did not like English lessons.
One day I had the opportunity to go to Kupang for 3 days, my friend took part in a billiard competition, a friendship competition.
The competition is held in a semi-open restaurant on the beach,
3 days in Kupang I saw some Caucasian men,
There are 2 couples (Caucasian husband and Indonesian woman's wife) who are seen without problems.
There is an old Caucasian man who comes every day just to sit and drink beer, he collect beer botle caps on the table and when he wants to go home he counts the number of caps and pays for it, I never saw him eat.
Then the soul of my curiosity came.
I ask him, why not eat?
He answered "have eaten at home"
He also told me that his wife left him and his 2 children and married another man.
I did not ask whether he came to drink every day at the Restaurant because he was disappointed that his wife left him or his wife left him because he went to drink every day (well if I ask this means that I have entered the realm of interfering with other people's affairs then I stop my curiosity).
But as a woman my maternal soul appears, there is compassion, I think; sorry for the old man, his old body was small and frail and his voice was hoarse too, wanting to feel like I was speaking further and giving him advice, I knew there was nothing in his life, that is the handle of life. So far, maybe people in Indonesia think that Caucasians are Christians because of the festivities of Christmas and Easter celebrations in their Country even though the festivals of the big day are because they have always been and have been handed down from generation to generation.
While actually they are more who are no Religious.
Yes, I want to bring him to know the creator of the universe so that he has the handle of life and in his old age no longer walks from his house to the restaurant every day, sits for a long time and drinks beer with bottles until dusk comes I see his frail old back and hunched away from the restaurant and tomorrow morning he will come again to do the same thing.
There is a husband and wife, her husband is a Caucasian and his wife is an Indonesian woman, there is a noticeable difference in age.
They have a son around 3 years old, every day he takes the child to the stroller to come to the restaurant, with the husband enthusiasm going straight to the receptionist, buying beer on his left hand and mineral water on his right hand while his wife and child sit on the chair the open space and the small family looked calm, the wife played the cellphone, the child ran around and the husband went back and forth to the Receptionist place to buy more beer.
Until I hear the sound of a fight between the husband and a visitor, and his wife shout "Go Home! Go Home!" and the small family left the Restaurant.
I was surprised when a few hours later the little family appeared again, as usual, the wife pushed the stroller and the husband went straight to the receptionist to buy beer in his left hand and mineral water on his right hand, I did'nt see his child drink milk or eat , where do they eat ?
A few hours later I saw them go home.
And at night they come again.
The next day when my friend and I went to the Mall to pay a taxi of Rp 70,000, - so it was quite far from the hotel, I was surprised, far to the left there, a married couple with her child in the stroller was there.
In the afternoon when I went to the restaurant on the beach to eat and at the same time my friend wanted to practice before the evening game, the little family was already there, as usual her husband went back and forth to the receptionis to buy beer, while walking I heard his voice ask his wife " why darling? And his wife answered "Go Home! "
And a few moments later the small family left the restaurant.
That night when the billiard competition began, I saw that the man was very excited and looked happy he gave the players a boost, his voice was loud which was actually quite disturbing, from the enthusiasm I saw from the man it seemed that he rarely experienced happy events, he needed friends, he needed interaction and relations and that night he seemed to find everything.
After 2 days I stayed at the hotel, I just found out that the little family stayed in the hotel where I was staying and my friend told me that the wife who is now the fifth and fifth marriage is the most durable.
I think women who are strong with a model of marriage life like that, even if they live in hotels with AC rooms, bathing can with cold water or hot water, no need to clean the room and clean the house, breakfast is provided, laundry is only a little because I see the men the shirt does not change and wife use small shirt and short pant .
All facilities available if want to swim there is a swiming pool
But life is not that narrow, people need social interaction, women need to be trusted to manage household finances and will feel happy and proud if their financial management can be enough or maybe more, can give to their parents even if it's just food.
I saw that the Caucasia wife never carried a bag or wallet, just pushed her child's stroller and cellphone in her minimal pants pocket.
On my last day in Kupang, just before the Gala Dinner began.
The Caucasian man quarreled with the Restaurant owner, the wife advanced to defend her husband, scolded the restaurant owner and manager of the billiard competition and then shouted "Go Home! Go Home!"
I don't know if the next day the little family came back to the Restaurant again or not because the next morning I was at El Tari Airport to return to my town early in the morning.
Suddenly I felt that walking next to a Caucasian man was not something really great.
1 There are Caucasian men who are looking for women from Indonesia (Asia) because they need a wife
2 There are Caucasian men who are looking for wives from Indonesia (Asia) because they need women.
For the second, don't expect the woman to be given the right and trust to manage finances.
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